People are getting triggered.

Sometimes by the simplest thing. Sometimes in surprising ways; ways that are seemingly out of character.

Over-reacting, getting hot and bothered, feeling unseen, unheard, ignored, or dismissed.

Angry, pissed off, hurt, resentful or frustrated. Let down. Powerless.

Clients, friends, family, and colleagues seem to be experiencing an uptick in relationship difficulties, worries and concerns...

communications have been going a bit sideways, or the streams are crossing, causing misunderstandings and sparks flying.

Yeah, I get it. I've been in the same boat - both as a participant and an observer. Sometimes I get to play the counselor or help someone regain their perspective and come to a better understanding on what is really going on. And sometimes I am dealing with me in the spin cycle.

As I mentioned in my blog post Are Your Relationships Throwing You Off Balance, this month (February) has been interesting in how relationships are showing up to let you know where you are out of alignment.

Where you are out of alignment with YOU.

Which has the ripple effect of causing misalignments with others.

This could be with your spouse, a child, a sibling, a parent, another loved one or a friend.

It could show up at work with a coworker (or multiple coworkers) or your boss.

It could be your relationship with your furry, hairy, scaly and feathered friends and those animals you share your life with in some way.

Are any of these making you uncomfortable or pissing your off?

Perhaps a neighbor or community member is pushing your buttons.

Maybe your work, lack of work, or your business is driving you bonkers.

Or the relationship challenge could be with yourself (most likely!), including Your Past, Your Ego, and Your Spirit.

Relationships are often a big trigger for people.

Especially when a holiday like Valentine’s Day shows up to shine a light on their relationships.

This is nothing new.

You may have been triggered for years by whatever relationship challenges, issues and beliefs you are dealing with

(or not dealing with)

and you may have finally reached that breaking point

where something’s gotta give.

It’s OK. 

Really.

In fact it is better than OK.

It now allows you insights to heal the issues at the core of the relationship challenge.

Yes, we all get triggered.

It’s life on planet Earth.

No matter how spiritual you are or how high your vibration, chances are every now and then something will happen that bypasses your heart and your logic mind.

It zooms right into your “infant mind” or "reptile brain" causing you to react from a wounded place or putting you into survival mode.

Emotions flare up.

Drama may ensue.

Life can be messy at times.

I don’t think anyone is immune.

Yeah. Triggers. So (not) fun!

And yet, triggers are wonderful sign posts and teaching moments.

If you can stop and take a look before you melt down…

or regroup after the meltdown...  

and pause to wonder what that was really all about.

Let the trigger be a mirror for you.

When you approach it from:

"I wonder what this is really about?"  (empowered state)

Instead of:

"Why is this happening to me?" (disempowered state)

You short-ciruit the story loop your mind has told you so many times before and

you can now start accessing the truth of what is going on inside the Universe that is YOU!

Here are some things to ponder and journal about that may help you have a breakthrough this month:

• What could you do to improve your relationship with yourself and to honor yourself more?

• What would make you feel better about yourself?

• What might this challenging relationship be trying to show you or teach you about yourself, your beliefs your past programming?

• What is really going on? What is this really about? (it is rarely about the surface stuff… dig a little deeper)

• What is the most loving thing you can do (or say) at this time?

• How can you treat yourself with more love?

• How can you treat the other person with more love?

When you feel triggered, try pausing and taking a nice deep breath.

This will short circuit the impulse to react.

You may have to leave the room, go for a walk or temporarily remove yourself from the situation to regain your center.

That’s OK. 

It is all part of learning how to respond to challenges and triggers instead of reacting to them.

Other things you can play with…

Imagine you are surrounded in a bubble or pink love light.

Or surround the person, or situation in a bubble of pink light.

Pink light represents love. Send them love. Bless them.

Ask angels for a benevolent outcome.

And then... Let. It. Go.

Love yourself in spite of the messy bits.

Now, do something to show yourself some love... every, single, gosh-darned day.

Love & Blessings,

Karen

PS. I'd love to hear how you are dealing with the stuff that triggers you… and what triggers you... You can share in the comments area below!

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